Sex After Trauma

This time I’m just passing forward something I saw earlier. I hope it comes handy to some of you too. View this post on Instagram A post shared by Unapologetically Surviving (@unapologeticallysurviving) I wrote a a little something about this a while ago. It’s here if you’ve missed it: Can you enjoy having sex after … Read more

Reblog: Good Love Is “Boring”

Bad love is erratic I just finished reading Samantha Irby’s “We Are Never Meeting In Real Life” (recommended, obvs), and in it she talks about her relationship by saying, “I’m in love and it’s boring.” Right on, sister. Too often, we think love is supposed to be manic People celebrate “losing themselves,” and “falling” for … Read more

Chasing love to escape ourselves

Nice talk about chasing love to escape ourselves. One thing I was quite good at and something I’m also ashamed of. From the bottom of my heart. I’ve learned this lesson and I’m not running from myself anymore. I actually feel good in my own skin, but there is still some room for improvement. It’s … Read more

Reblog: Let’s Rethink Our Participation in Dating Apps: Tinder Investigation.

“In times past, men and women tended to meet at work, through mutual friends, or at social venues such as church or sports clubs. In other words, their relationship was rooted in a pre-existing social ecology where others could generally be trusted. This could inhibit contemptible dating behavior as wrongdoers faced opprobrium from the pre-existing … Read more

A letter to my special someone

Writing can be very therapeutic. It makes you release the thoughts that would otherwise stay in your head, where they’d cause nothing but trouble. This will be one of these writings. It’s a very personal thing, but I’m going to share it with you. To maybe encourage somebody else to do the same, because it … Read more

Why we fail at communication

Because we don’t listen. If we listen, things turn around very dramatically (this goes for both sides of course). Another thing I’ve failed many, many times. 🤦 Listening is very important, not just to please the other person, but for you as well, to learn something. This is actually a little note to myself, but … Read more

In love with your therapist?

If your answer is yes, then you’re definitely not alone. It happens more often than you’d think. Usually this isn’t the “real” love, but rather transference. We can easily see the therapist (or a doctor) as an ideal friend or even more, because of the way therapy works. I’m glad it happened to me too … Read more

Guest post: How to fix a broken heart

Getting over a broken heart is never easy. Nothing hurts more than heartbreak, be it the end of a relationship, or the passing away of a loved one. You are unable to concentrate, and to function as you normally do. To love is to be vulnerable, and therefore, easily hurt by the people we love. … Read more

Reblog: Sexual and Intimacy Anorexia is Abuse!

Imagine that you are in one committed relationship, but for some reason, you feel that your partner withholds sex and intimacy. Inside your gut, the alarming bell is always on the warning mode telling there is something unnatural. He or she doesn’t kiss you that much, don’t hold hands with you, might walk ahead from … Read more

Guest post: Tribalism

In an essay written at the end of World War II, George Orwell wrote, “the habit of identifying oneself with a single nation or other unit, placing it beyond good and evil and recognizing no other duty than that of advancing its interests. . . . .”1 Orwell is referring to to tribalism as it often is demonstrated in our cultures. Why are Human’s Tribalistic? … Read more