Happiness comes from solving problems, not avoiding them
This is just another thing most of us already know, but need to be reminded once in a while. I’m no different.
Many of us would love the thought of never ever being hurt again. But we need some pain, it’s the way we are designed.
Just like our muscles need some exercise in order to grow, our mind does too.
I could write a whole book on the topic, but many other people already did a great job at this field. Mark Manson is just one of them.
You can get some of his work for free here.
I’ve found his work very useful for myself, so I thought it would be nice to pass it forward.
This video is also on point. I thought about doing my own videos, but there is so much great material out there already, that we can use and reuse it.
I’ll stick to what I do best. Passing my own experience with a dash of sources I’ve found the most useful for myself.
If you want to read more about specific topics I can help you with, please let me know in the comments below. You can also ask me anything.
Further reading:
– JK Rowling Benefits Of Failure
– 8 Reasons Why You Should Fail As Much As You Can
10 Comments
𝑹𝒐𝑩𝑰𝑵 ☄️
I agree! There’s thrill in solving problems to make our lives easier and to deal with difficulties better.
Maja
Indeed, but many people don’t see it like that. You can easily go there while being depressed.
Hetty Eliot
Plus avoiding a problem makes you always have that inner question of what could you have done if you faced it? You won’t know your own bravery when tested, and we always need to build up strength bc at some point we can’t avoid facing certain problems life throws at us.
Maja
Indeed.
ZeroSpace
Yes but some problems are very hard to solve. Or unsolvable. For example, PMDD doesn’t have a solution except menopause. Sure, anti-depressants help sometimes but not always. Enter escapism. The women who manage to not behead someone will run into a good book and escape. Other women will drink a bunch of wine. I guess you could call escape a solution sometimes. Wouldn’t you say?
Maja
Oh PMDD… this is a tough one. I’m still looking for solutions here; but for now my therapy covers it at least a little.
About escapism I’d say there needs to be set what is escapism and what is a break. Break is something we all need, while escapism, I really don’t know. I can say for myself that I still use escapism instead of break, because I feel too much guilt if I just rest and do nothing productive.
Jeff Flesch
A very succinct truth. Well done, Maja. Have a beautiful Friday, and lovely weekend.
Maja
Thanks. You too Jeff. 🙂
Jeff Flesch
Welcome. Thank you, Maja. 🙂
Anugrah Mishra
evading problems is nothing but an escapist attitude ,which makes one feel more miserable ,and facing problems is the essence of life .Totally agreeing with you.