Nobody goes along with everybody. You might be toxic for somebody, while you’re perfectly ok interacting with somebody else. And you don’t even need to have a personality disorder for that.
I will focus on the borderline personality. I still live with it on a daily basis to some point, but I improved a lot through therapy. I’ve done some research about it too. I’m not an expert, but I can share some insights.
People with this type of personality disorders can be considered as quite toxic and I’d strongly agree. Even though, we all have our bright sides too.
We are still a human beings and first of all we do deserve some basic respect.
People with the same personality do share some or many common traits, but not everything applies to everyone. You can’t judge a person just by some label. You can deal with extremely toxic borderline for example, or completely benign one. It also depends what kind of person are you and how much can you tolerate.
Pay attention to your own feelings. How do you feel around different people?
It’s good to get a second opinion sometimes. To better understand if the person is generally toxic or just going through some rough times.
Some people bring out the best in us and some the worst. This goes for everybody. Borderline’s can be extremely sensitive to everything. We tend to overreact, but this doesn’t mean that we’re always the one to blame for everything that goes wrong.
It might help if you imagine us as a little kids who just don’t know yet what their own boundaries are. Because we really struggle with setting them – for ourselves and others.
The best way to deal with toxic people is to stay mindful and don’t take things too personally. It’s also very important to set your own boundaries and stick to them.
This is as far as the dealing goes. Sometimes it’s best to simply avoid people who are too toxic for you if possible.
What about you, do you have any experience with borderlines and the difficulties to communicate with them? Or you might struggle with BPD yourself? Feel free to share your own thoughts.
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