Did you ever fall in love with somebody who didn’t return the feelings? If you’re a human, there are many chances that you’ve been there at least once.
It’s good to know that the other person actually doesn’t have so much to do with our heart being broken as we might think. Our own mind is the one that usually breaks us, which is good news. More about this later, first I’ll tell you a part of my experience.
In the past, I could lose myself completely when I fell in love. No matter if the feelings were or weren’t returned. I simply couldn’t imagine myself existing without this person.
I also gave this person the power to decide what kind of person I am, I gave up control over my emotions, and much more. Well, I was still in control, I just wasn’t aware.
When you give other people such power, you can’t live a happy life or sometimes live at all.
When you learn to control your thoughts, you learn to control your emotions too.
Am I there yet? No, I’m writing this “on the go”, still learning the very basics.
Once you realize the power that only you can have over you (and not giving it to others), many things become much clearer and easier.
If you’re in control when it comes to your unpleasant emotions, you can also be in control of the pleasant ones.
So, how did I fix my own broken heart?
By changing my thoughts, questioning them often, and letting myself feel all the emotions in all their depth.
I used to run from my emotions, so this was a huge step forward.
Also staying in regular touch with other people, doing the work I love, and other things I enjoy, taking good care of my other needs. All the little, but very important things.
Along the way, I’ve learned that many mental health issues come from our unsatisfied needs. It’s good to know them for starters. I’ll stop here and leave the rest of the work to you.
I believe I’m not the best teacher for you anyway, but I can recommend you one of my courses where you can get some more insights about this topic.
Get over One Sided Love – Love Deaddiction – in few minutes
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