How to help others without making them feel even worse

This is a short guide for anybody who wants to help somebody else (or just if you’re dealing with a very sensitive person).

Words that can make a bad situation even worse

  1. What you’re stressing about won’t even matter in a year.
  2. Life’s too short to worry.
  3. Calm down.
  4. It’s no big deal.
  5. It’s all in your head.
  6. Let it go.
  7. Things could be so much worse.
  8. Be positive.

Sometimes is better to stay quiet and just be there, especially if you don’t know what to say. That’s ok too.

There is no universal rule that works with everybody. You can do best by observing other people’s reactions and learn from them.
I also came by an interesting article how can sometimes be beneficial to make people feel bad. Well, at the end of the day, it’s up to you, which path will you choose.

Oh and by the way, I’m not very good at this as well. Another thing I’ve failed too many times and I’m not proud of. This blog somehow became my own self-help tutorial with plenty of reminders. I really hope that helped some of you as well. I’m also grateful for all your feedback so far. It helped me a lot. Thanks, dear reader.

Do you have any experience of your own? What you really don’t like to hear from other people when you don’t feel so good?

Further reading:
Helping others with mental health problems
How to Be Considerate
How to Show Compassion

10 thoughts on “How to help others without making them feel even worse”

  1. Hi there
    Great post and very well said. I was hoping you all would follow my new blog. It has some of my stories but it is more educational with resources to help and a combination of others post
    This post I would like to put on my blog with you as the author and your blog page as well . To further spread the word. Let me know if I can.
    Here is my blog link. As I said it is in the embryonic stage. Thanks. Liz

  2. I really hate calm down.

    Support can simply be being asked if I want to talk (about it, or to take my mind of it). Or someone saying “I’m here if you need me”.


Leave a Reply

Scroll Up
%d bloggers like this: