If your answer is yes, then you’re definitely not alone. It happens more often than you’d think.
Usually this isn’t the “real” love, but rather transference.
We can easily see the therapist as an ideal friend or even more, because of the way therapy works.
I’m really glad it happened to me too at some point, because it got me thinking a lot about love. About my past relationships and about love in general. I also learned a lot about myself. I fell in love with my shrink, who is not my therapist though. But the science behind is pretty much the same.
This can be a great experience and help you grow in many ways, if you’re dealing with it in the right way.
For me it was a bit scary experience in the beginning, because I really didn’t want this to happen and I also didn’t quite understand what exactly was going on.
Thankfully I was surrounded by some great therapists, so I got this thing cleared up.
It wasn’t easy to process all of the emotional drama going on inside of me (dealing with BPD and CPTSD really doesn’t help here). But it wasn’t easy to start talking about it. It’s still hard sometimes.
No matter what will happen next, I will always be grateful to have met him. And to experience such intense love, even though it was just one sided. This was also the safest love experience I’ve ever had. Things might end up very bad if we’d met outside the office walls, considering my dealing with such intense emotions.
What is love actually? How do we know that we really, truly love the person on the other side?
Do we really or are we just projecting some feelings from the past, because it reminds us of some other person?
What about you, do you have any similar experience?