Everyone of us has a little bit of a narcissist inside. It’s healthy and you need it to set some healthy boundaries
I won’t write about this sort of narcissism, but pathological one. If I’d have to give one piece of advice that works best when you’re dealing with a narcissist, avoid them at any cost would be it.
In reality, this is not always possible
You can have a narcissistic boss, a friend, a family member or even a spouse. Or even yourself 🙂 I don’t want to encourage you to play games with them (or with any people for that matter, it’s just cruel and not right).
I exposed this video, because it helped me to see them as a little kids. This way you can distance yourself mindfully out of the situation. And to learn that you can still have some control over the situations.
I find the video a bit insulting, because no matter what people do, it’s really not nice to laugh at them or play games for that matter.
Your most powerful weapon
Don’t let them make a bad guy out of you too. I know it can be really tempting, but it’s just not worth it.
Also beware, that they are masters of revenge, so it’s best to leave them alone and seek some professional help for yourself. And find as much comfort and support as possible all around and within yourself.
Some people can bring up the best in us and some of them the worst. It’s best to stick to the first ones as much as possible.
This is one fine piece of advice in general, while dealing with people. Yet you can still get hurt, especially if you’re a very sensitive person. And you won’t believe it – narcissists are extremely sensitive too. They just act in a different way, because they lack the empathy for the other side.
I was manipulated by some narcs to the point they made me believe I’m the narcissistic one and I ended up apologizing to them for my and their reactions.
It’s something that many victims of narcissistic abuse have in common.
I’m really glad I went through some group therapies, to see that I’m not always the craziest person in the room.
I was also extremely lucky to meet a narcissist who actually acknowledges his narcissism and came into the group therapy (they tend to be very resistant to therapy, because they’re strongly convinced that there is nothing wrong with them).
He gave me some very useful insights and I’ve learned how fragile can they be, even though they look extremely tough on the outside.
But beware, they can easily fake some empathy as a part of manipulation – they love mind games. Consciously or unconsciously.
What about you, do you have any experience with a narcissist in your closer environment? What works for you?
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