The art of setting boundaries

How to stay true to yourself and be approachable to others too?

The balance is what I’m talking about. Something I’m still learning.

We can look at this as a balance between need and want. Kind of. We all have our needs and expectations for ourselves and for other people. How do we implement this in our interactions and relationships best?

You can try as hard as you can, but sometimes things just don’t work out. One time you’ll please yourself and another time somebody else. Sometimes you can even do both, but not every time.

Before setting a boundary, you need to be truly honest with yourself. What do you expect from the other person? What are you willing to give to the other person? Do you want to please or be pleased? How high do you value your own honesty?

To some people, you appear as good, to some as a bad guy. But at the end of the day, you need to be satisfied with that guy. If you can’t sleep at night, you might not be as good as you think you are. To others or to yourself.
I still don’t sleep so good myself,…

It’s another thing we could be taught at school. Right beside the self-awareness.

My mom can put in one sentence the whole mess I just wrote: “You’re growing up, kid.” 🙂

What about you, when were you taught about setting the right boundaries, in your childhood or are you still learning?

Further reading:
How to Establish Boundaries
10 Way to Build and Preserve Better Boundaries

2 Replies to “The art of setting boundaries”

  1. This is a great insight into boundary setting and believe me, it’s something I am getting better at but still find uncomfortable in certain situations! Thanks for the reminder to do some more work x

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