The Bright Side of BPD

I just finished another course, this time on positive psychology & resilience. Btw, you can do it too, if you’re into learning something new. Which got me thinking a bit more about the bright side of pretty much everything.

So, you think that your borderline traits are only negative? Think again. πŸ˜‰

Strengths and qualities of BPD

Empathy, compassion and intuition – people with BPD are also highly sensitive. Which allows them to be more empathetic towards others. A study has shown that people with BPD are able to read facial expressions and emotions better than those without BPD. I can tell from my own point that I can read people way too well and this isn’t only good. Sometimes I’d rather know less because I’m still not the best when it comes to coping with my emotions. But once I learn, this might become a true superpower.

Curiosity and creativity – high sensitivity allows for greater curiosity in the minds of those with BPD who many times turn their emotions into art and other creative ways.
I like photography btw. And video editing, I also tried audio editing, I sang, danced, draw, paint… I absolutely love art, writing, and learning new things. And painting my hair. πŸ˜€ If I weren’t afraid of needles, I’d love to cover my body with some amazing tattoos too.

Courage – people with BPD are known for being bolder.

Passion – being highly sensitive and more emotional gives you more passion. There may be struggles with attachment and fears of abandonment, but these come from manifestations of love. People with BPD can be highly committed and loyal.
I can be really intense. When I love, I truly love and find it very hard to let go.

It all comes down to your focus. We can’t influence everything in our lives, but thankfully, we can influence our thoughts. If they’re happy, we can be happier. So it’s worth focusing on the bright side of everything more than on the dark.

You can find even more BPD goods in the article below.

Strengths and qualities of BPD

Can you spot anything good in your diagnosis too (it doesn’t have to be BPD)?

18 thoughts on “The Bright Side of BPD”

  1. I find that question hard to answer, in part because I think of my illness as something that’s been imposed on top of my personality rather than shaping particular traits. But there are things that I’ve done, like writing, that I probably wouldn’t have done had mental illness not been in the picture.

  2. Maja, this is exactly where I am at right now. I am realizing that for all my flaws as (possibly) a BPD person, there are some advantages. Sensitivity, loyalty, etc.
    Not everyone has qualities of sensitivity, awareness, etc.
    I am reckoning with these gifts and realizing they are the bright side of a dark shadow.
    This is a timely post. Thank you so much.

  3. “I can tell from my own point that I can read people way too well and this isn’t only good. Sometimes I’d rather know less because I’m still not the best when it comes to coping with my emotions. But once I learn, this might become a true superpower.”

    I experience this too, and it’s definitely a superpower!! When you realise how accurate your intuitions are it can feel spooky. I used to have a friend I had a lot in common with and really liked, I could do physical activities with him that I couldn’t do with other friends. But he was a chronic ‘bullshitter’ in social situations, pretending that he’d seen movies and things! It was soo obvious but it shocked me to my core that everyone else seemed to just believe it πŸ˜†. I just accepted it as a necessary curiosity to put up with when hanging around with him, lol.

      • To be honest, I was at my absolute peak mental health in my entire life at that point! I was constantly high on endorphins from exercise, nothing could faze me. I think I would have less time for people who still felt the need to do that now, lol.

        It’s really weird, all the anxiety I’ve felt at other times in life melted away in those days with the constant exercise and being outside, and social interaction and everything else. Even my sensory sensitivity was much less and more balanced.

        But in general everything is easier to deal with, especially other people, when you’re feeling good about yourself. It’s easier to focus on the positive things. So I would just recommend to keep doing what you are doing, as I think you are gradually improving with that. The other things will come more naturally :).

  4. I agree, it is important to see all aspects of ourselves. Knowing our strengths and not limiting ourselves to a defined label is incredibly important, as you so nicely point out, πŸ’—

  5. I agree with you there is a bright side and you can turn what someone calls or classifies as a disability into an amazing ability! The Harvard neuroscience program actively recruits individuals that are diagnosed with OCD turns out they make for great brain surgeons.

      • My pleasure! Thank you for your very informative and interesting posts. I look forward to reading more! I’ve been diagnosed with MDD, OCD, and PTSD. Suffice to say, you have a lot of material that I’m sure would be quite helpful to me. Thank you! 😊


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