Why we fail at communication

Because we don’t listen.

If we listen, things turn around very dramatically (this goes for both sides of course). Another thing I’ve failed many, many times. 🀦

Listening is very important, not just to please the other person, but for you as well, to learn something.


This is actually a little note to myself, but I hope it comes handy to somebody else out there, who wants to improve communication skills. You know, sharing is caring πŸ™‚

Do you have any tips of your own?

Further reading:
5 Tips for Becoming a Better Listener
6 Ways To Become A Better Listener
How to Communicate Effectively

23 thoughts on “Why we fail at communication

  1. Annette Reply

    To be a good communicator takes time and practice. To know what to say and how to say it is a strong tip. This requires wisdom.

    • Maja Reply

      Oh, I can relate. It can be really hard indeed. But listening to others is more than just hearing every word they say. I meant more in a way to understand them, to hear them. You might lose the whole conversation, but you still catch a person’s mood, body language etc.

  2. creativeaudrey Reply

    Also, be curious. It’s fun to be a talker, especially if you are an extrovert, but also nice to be an observer for a change. Then you can listen to other people and write about them on your blog!

  3. DJ Reply

    Listening is one part, yes; but I think another important part people miss is that when they communicate, they’re only thinking about what they want to say, but don’t think enough about who they’re saying it to.

    The purpose of communication should be to make sure that the person that who is receiving the communication doesn’t just hear what you’re saying, but can comprehend it too. Poor communication can often come from saying whatever you want to say without any thought about the person(s) receiving it.

  4. restingketoface Reply

    I think communication involves a) what’s being said b) why it’s being said c) who is saying it d) who is listening e) environment the conversation takes place in

    There are so many factors that influence a conversation and it really takes the right pieces syncing up to make an impact.

  5. Michelle Giles Reply

    Very good direct point! Reminds me of a scripture in the bible, James 1:19, ” Everyone must be quick to listen” and “slow to speak” .

  6. 𝑹𝒐𝑩𝑰𝑡 β˜„οΈ Reply

    I find it hard to imagine you failing at listening. Anyways, my top communication tip:

    β€”Only speak when you have something to say πŸ˜„

    Soo much trouble is avoided by not speaking sometimes πŸ˜„. Definitely speak up when you DO have something that you need to communicate, though :).

  7. Yetismith Reply

    I was never a big talker so when I went to staff meetings, I was an observer and very often I could see that what someone had said had actually been misunderstood by the other party, so then I would put my hand up and say “wait a minute”…not that I managed to make a difference very often!

  8. Yetismith Reply

    And what I meant to say is that as well as listening to someone else, you should ask for clarification if you don’t understand what they say.

    • Lampelina Post authorReply

      Indeed. Thanks for your feedback as always Carolyn. And sorry for waiting for your comment to be seen. My spam filter needs some clarification too. πŸ˜€

  9. Richard Le Sueur Reply

    An added thought. Something I learned many years ago is that we have two ears and one mouth for a reason. πŸ™‚

  10. Ab Reply

    Good and active listening is half the battle in maintaining good communications and relationships!

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