A couple of years ago, I went to a gastroenterologist for a checkup. I’ve been pleasantly surprised by a doctor who made a great impression on me by giving me a hug when she introduced herself. She asked if I’d allow it, of course.
She had a TED talk about the power of the human touch, and emotions – you can watch it even if you don’t understand Slovenian, just turn the automatic translation on.
I love her point about the car and our bodies. Sadly we often take better care of our cars and things than our bodies, we still forget our minds too often too.
Some people hug with their words and behavior too.
I don’t know if this scientifically counts as a hug, but I’d say it could according to my own experience. This is how I fell in love with my former psychiatrist… I felt hugged while I was in his care and I still miss his energy.
I still love him in a special way, but that’s the topic for another post.
From this point, I believe it could be even more difficult if there were any hugs exchanged between us. Or this might actually help. I can’t say, because I don’t know.
Why do we need hugs?
- They boost the immune system, reduce blood pressure and improve our mood [mfn]Source: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-asymmetric-brain/201812/3-surprising-ways-hugging-benefits-your-well-being[/mfn]
Hugging activates the same reward centers in our brain as eating does, so if you’re not getting physical affection, you may feel like you’re starved for touch. [mfn]more…[/mfn]
I’m wondering why we don’t have professional huggers
Can you imagine how many people could benefit from this? I think we could even get a slight drop in antidepressants and some other drugs, so of course, not everybody would be happy about it. No, this isn’t something that would fit into the materialistic world we live in or is it?.
They would also need specific training, perhaps about how not to get too attached to their clients and they’d probably need some self-defense skills too, among others.
Can you imagine self-help groups where people just hug each other?
It’s very good if you know how to hug yourself too because that’s the only hug you’ll always get no matter where you are or who’s around.
HOW TO GIVE YOURSELF A HUG?
- Put your arms around your body in a natural and comfortable way.
- Rest your hands on your shoulders or upper arm. Again, go with what feels natural.
- Imagine the type of hug you want. A strong, intense, maybe softer, soothing hug?
- Squeeze yourself with just enough pressure to create the sensation you’re looking for.
- Hold the hug for as long as you like.
If you don’t feel like hugging yourself, try stroking your forearms or upper shoulders in a soothing way, similar to a gentle massage. [mfn]Source: https://www.healthline.com/health/hugging-self[/mfn]
If you need a hug and don’t feel comfortable hugging yourself, you can hug a friendly animal, a teddy, pillow, blanket, or another object you find comforting.
You can also hug yourself through mindfulness and other meditations.
Feel free to share your own thoughts about hugs.
– Four Ways Hugs Are Good for Your Health
– The influence of duration, arm crossing style, gender, and emotional closeness on hugging behaviour
– Why You Should Get (and Give) More Hugs
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