Why We Fail At Communication

Because we don’t listen.

If we listen, things turn around very dramatically (this goes for both sides of course). Another thing I’ve failed many, many times. 🀦

Listening is very important, not just to please the other person, but for you as well, to learn something.

This is actually a little note to myself, but I hope it comes handy to somebody else out there, who wants to improve communication skills. You know, sharing is caring πŸ™‚

Do you have any tips of your own?

Further reading:
5 Tips for Becoming a Better Listener
6 Ways To Become A Better Listener
How to Communicate Effectively

23 thoughts on “Why We Fail At Communication”

    • Oh, I can relate. It can be really hard indeed. But listening to others is more than just hearing every word they say. I meant more in a way to understand them, to hear them. You might lose the whole conversation, but you still catch a person’s mood, body language etc.

  1. Also, be curious. It’s fun to be a talker, especially if you are an extrovert, but also nice to be an observer for a change. Then you can listen to other people and write about them on your blog!

  2. Listening is one part, yes; but I think another important part people miss is that when they communicate, they’re only thinking about what they want to say, but don’t think enough about who they’re saying it to.

    The purpose of communication should be to make sure that the person that who is receiving the communication doesn’t just hear what you’re saying, but can comprehend it too. Poor communication can often come from saying whatever you want to say without any thought about the person(s) receiving it.

  3. I think communication involves a) what’s being said b) why it’s being said c) who is saying it d) who is listening e) environment the conversation takes place in

    There are so many factors that influence a conversation and it really takes the right pieces syncing up to make an impact.

  4. Very good direct point! Reminds me of a scripture in the bible, James 1:19, ” Everyone must be quick to listen” and “slow to speak” .

  5. I was never a big talker so when I went to staff meetings, I was an observer and very often I could see that what someone had said had actually been misunderstood by the other party, so then I would put my hand up and say “wait a minute”…not that I managed to make a difference very often!

  6. An added thought. Something I learned many years ago is that we have two ears and one mouth for a reason. πŸ™‚


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